Monday, March 31, 2014

Work Hard. Play Hard.


Almost every introduction leads to the question: “What do you do?” Whether you admit it or not, we all find some identity or purpose at work. In fact, many people will define themselves by what their career. Everyone has a desire to make an impact; whether you wake up singing praises because you get to go to work today, or if you feel like you force yourself into the flames of hell at 8am every morning. (I really hope this is not the case- even if you dislike your job!)

 

Odds are most of us fall somewhere in the middle of these two extremes. There are days work makes us feel accomplished and valuable, but there are days it seems to drag us down or put us in an anxious, unpleasant mood.

 

No matter what your circumstance, the bible shows us that from the beginning, we were created to work. Genesis 2 tells us that The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.”

Yes God placed Adam and Eve in the garden to enjoy its delights, but they were also placed there to work. In order to enjoy they land, they were first required to cultivate its resources.

 

God designed work and gave us something to do, so that we would feel accomplished. In fact, work is a gift from the Lord- He doesn’t need us to do anything, but he gave us a job out of love. God wants us to feel accomplished! Just like a mother wants her child to feel like a big kid while being potty trained or learning simples tasks. We want our children to feel accomplished as they learn to do the little things, so that they continue trying bigger things as they mature!

 

That is what the Lord wants for us too! So He gives us this same encouragement as we face each day.  Work is not a punishment- Yet somehow- many of us have let our jobs, tasks, and responsibilities become a burden!

 

If we closed our eyes (you can do it now if you would like) and pictured Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, many of us would paint the wrong picture. I don’t know where I get this idea, but I am imagining a permanent vacation! Before sin entered the world, I picture Adam and Eve relaxing by the tropical waterfall, sipping on fresh squeezed pineapple juice (with one of those cute umbrellas), maybe having a mud facial, or soaking up the sun. Ahhh Paradise!

 

I am thinking- “man, they really messed things up for us… I would kill for a vacation right now! Why did they have to go sin and curse the rest of us? Now I have to go to work and take care of business.” Some of us may think that we are required to work because sin entered the world and now “money doesn’t grow on trees” and life isn’t a permanent vacation. This idea is completely wrong! As mentioned earlier- Adam was designed to work and work was never a punishment for sin! However, because sin did indeed enter the garden, the truth is this: We are not required to work because of sin…. but sin’s effect on work often makes it frustrating and unpleasant. *Sin changed the way we view work!*

 

Gen. 3:17- 18 “Because you listened to your wife, and ate from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from, The very ground is cursed because of you; getting food from the ground will be as painful as having babies is for your wife; you’ll be working in pain all your life long. The ground will sprout thorns and weeds, you’ll get your food the hard way, planting and tilling and harvesting, sweating in the fields from dawn to dusk. (The Message Version)

 

It is because of sin, that many of us will view work as burdensome and/or painful. However, as Christians, we no longer live under the reign of sin and the effect of sin has no power over believers. If Christ Jesus is your Lord, then you are no longer trapped by the authoritative power of sin… When we die to our flesh and follow Christ, “work” can be restored to its original purpose.

 

Ephesians 2:10- For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.

 

In other words- those who are in Christ have been given a job, a responsibility, or a calling. God has placed us where we are to proclaim his name- That means your true “work” is to be a light in your office, school, friend group, family, or wherever you spend your time. Even if your current situation is not permanent, you have been seasonally placed there for a specific reason- to work for JESUS!

 

Proverbs 20:4- A farmer too lazy to plant in the spring has nothing to harvest in the fall. (MSG)

 

Proverbs 24:30-34-

I passed by the field of the sluggard and by the vineyard of the man lacking sense, and behold, it was completely overgrown with thistles; its surface was covered with nettles, and its stone wall was broken down. When I saw, I reflected upon it; I looked, and received instruction, “a little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest.” Then your poverty will come as a robber and your want like an armed man. (ASV)

 

 

Both of these verses involve a “timing factor.” Every season we walk through- or every job we will have- has specific tasks, responsibilities, and decisions. Sometimes we may want to throw in the towel or take a break… but we are here, in this season, for a reason- “If God has me here, there is still something to do.”

Instead of asking “Why am I here?” we should ask “Lord, what needs to be done today?” God wants us to finish strong… at work and in our current season… it might not be the time to take a nap or throw in the towel.

 

In Proverbs 24:30, two different men are described, first a slacker and then a man lacking sense. There are many days I know I am just down right slacking off, but there are also times that I actually don’t know or understand what I am supposed to be doing. When I don’t know what I should be doing or exactly how to do something, I will convince myself that it is ok to just sit and not do anything. “Better to not waste my time doing it the wrong way.” Or I will think: “it would be better for someone else to do this the right way- I will just wait.”

 

Sometimes yes, we should wait… but we should be actively waiting. If you aren’t sure how to do something that is your responsibility, then you need to seek counsel. ASK- don’t be like me. Don’t just do the minimum and hope someone else will come do the rest.

 

If you know me, and you know what I do, then you also know that I am constantly the person “lacking sense!” I am currently working on an IT project, and it is a small victory when I figure out how to do something as simple as post an Instagram photo. HA!

 

But in Proverbs 24 v. 30, Solomon was not referring to the man lacking mental knowledge, but he was referring to the man’s drive (or lack thereof!) In my case- it is ok that I am technology challenged… that is why God blessed me with a young college sister to give me free social media tutorials. And at work, it is ok that I do not know what I am doing 50% of the time… that is why He has provided amazing Co-workers to show me.

 

As believers, we are instructed to work wholeheartedly in all that we do. Sometimes, we may need to ask someone for help or we might have to do a little research… like in the shopaholic movie: “Did you just google: What is finance?”  Yes- and that is what we should do when we don’t know the answer… we should take advantage of the resources God gave us! This can apply to every area of life because- when we do not give our best it negatively affects the environment around us.

 

I will be the first to admit that I easily settle for “good enough,” especially when I don’t know the answers or instructions to follow. Usually I settle for average because I am lazy. I don’t want to seek advice or learn about an uninteresting topic. Many times I just try to get my 40 hours in, hit submit, and call it a week…

 

But like many people in our generation, I have the wrong view of work. Work shouldn’t be about how many hours we log; but rather, work should be about the output/results produced.

Many of us are more concerned with the appearance of putting in our hours than actually working. Instead of working longer, some of us need to work smarter!

 

Proverbs 6:6-8- Go to the ant, you slacker! Observe its ways and become wise. Without a leader, administrator, or ruler, it prepares its provision’s in summer; it gathers its food during harvest.

 

In proverbs, Solomon uses ants as an example. By paying attention to ants we can actually learn a few things about our work. Initially, when you look at an anthill, it may appear as if there are hundreds of ants running around frantically- just a bunch of chaos or activity.

 

Several of us feel like our lives are overloaded with activities- I know I feel this way- I run from one meeting to another to another (half of these meetings seem pointless- seriously, we hold a meeting to talk about another meeting?) After a busy workday, I may try and cram in a workout or an errand before dashing off to bible study, small group, or a dinner… and by the time I get home it is ten or eleven. I crawl in bed and think…. Did I do anything today that moved me closer to where I want to be? Usually the answer is no… then I will ask: well, did I do anything today that drew someone closer to the Lord? Or did I, myself, draw closer to the Lord? Sometimes the answer is yes, but more times than I would like, the answer is again No.

 

If I want to be efficient- at work and in my personal life, I need a plan. The things I fill my schedule with need to support that plan! I may have a long-term vision that has nothing to do with my current situation, but the work I do today will impact the direction I am going tomorrow. I believe God has placed you right where you are for a specific reason, whether you are there a month, a year, or ten years…. You wouldn’t be there if there wasn’t work to be done.

 

Even if you are looking for an out, as Christians, we are instructed to finish strong! That means we are to work smart… just finishing doesn’t take much effort…. People may not notice the way you start, but they will always remember the way you finish!

 

When you take a close look at the anthill, you will see every ant moving because they all have a job. No one has to tell the ants what to do… they just do it because that is what they were designed for. Unfortunately, some of us have forgotten what we were designed for. God designed us to work: work as a teacher, lawyer, mother, student, father, friend, small group leader or whatever you do… work hard and work smart in all that you do. You are working to reflect Christ.

 

Maybe it is time to evaluate your position and responsibilities: Where do you need to focus? What do you need to stop and what do you need to start?  If you hear only part of the message today, I pray that you do not hear a motivational speech to get busy… Life isn’t just work, work, work, plan, plan, plan… Don’t get so wrapped up in work or plans that you forget the purpose.

In Proverbs 6:8, Solomon says the ant “prepares its provisions in summer and it gathers its food during harvest.” We are called to make provisions so that we can gather in the harvest. The quote “work hard, play hard” can apply here.

 

God wants us to reap the rewards of our hard work, but He also wants us to enjoy the work along the way! There is a season to celebrate accomplishments or kick up our feet and relax… however, before the celebration begins, we must ensure the preparations have been made…but enjoy the preparation. This starts with our attitude…

 

Solomon gives us another analogy that corresponds:

 

Proverbs 14:4- Without oxen a stable stays clean, but you need a strong ox for a large harvest.

 

In Solomon’s day an Oxen served as a tractor would today. Just like a Tractor, the Oxen required maintenance- maybe even more. You would have to care for it, feed it and clean up after it. Owning an Ox was not a simple task, but without it, there was little chance of having a full harvest. Sometimes we have to make an investment to receive a profit.  

 

Again we see this in Proverbs 24

 

Proverbs 24:27- complete your outdoor work, and prepare your field; afterward build your house.

 

We are not only instructed to make investments, but also to prioritize those investments. A farmer may need to repair his roof, but if it is planting season he has to determine which is more important- planting or repairing? (both need to be done but we must determine the priority- which should be done first?) If the farmer chooses to repair the roof first, he may miss some planting and come harvest time the roof won’t leak, but he might not have enough food for his family.

Sometimes the question is not Where to give our time or investment… but when.

 

This leads to our next topic: Giving… where are we giving our time? Where are we giving our resources? Scripture calls us to work hard and work smart, but it also instructs us to give generously.

 

Giving is always a great topic to speak on; however, it is not always a topic we rush to put into action. I can stand up here all day and encourage each of you to give and most of you would agree- “Yes, we should all give! Let’s change the world!” Those kind of motivational talks are great… but when we leave this room, will we actually do it? It doesn’t matter if we agree… what matters in this case is what we do.

 

 

I can’t speak for all of you, but personally, I don’t think to myself: “You know, I really don’t enjoy going to work at 7am everyday… But, it will be so worth it when I get to spend my vacation days serving others or when I get to give part of my paycheck to the church!

 

No, not at all- I am usually thinking: “This will be so worth it when I get to go to the mall!” I really don’t think I am alone here…

So what does scripture say about the money & time that I have worked so hard to earn…

 

Proverbs 11:24-25- One gives freely, yet grows all the richer; another withholds what he should give, and only suffers want. Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered.

 

If this verse is true… what then keeps us from giving?

 

Insecurity, Fear, & Comfort… those are Idols I constantly fight. When I earn any kind of money or reward, those three things typically control my spending, saving and giving. First- I struggle with insecurities, so I allow the world to influence what I see in the mirror and that leads to the products and clothes I purchase. Second- I fear my future stability, so then I hoard rather than save smart. Third- I tell myself if there is any left…. I should give. However; what is left always depends on the first two…

Even still, when I am obedient and give, that generosity STILL has selfish agendas. Most of the time, I give hoping to receive more in return. I may not verbally say it, but often I give with a belief that I must give in order to receive the Lord’s blessings... So I catch myself asking “Do I give for the wrong reasons? Will He still bless me if that is true?”

 

I have decided that neither of these is the right questions to ask…. Instead, the question I really need to ask is this: Is my giving motivated by love for God more than a desire to get something in return?

 

As I was writing this lesson, I realized a few things:

 

1.)  God appeals to rewards regularly in scripture, so the desire for rewards cannot be inherently bad.

 

×         Luke 6:38 Give, and it will be given to you.

×         Proverbs 3:9-10 Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the first fruits of all your produce; then your barns will be filled with plenty, and your vats will be bursting with wine.

×         2 Corinthians 9:6 The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.

 

There are several more… but I just wanted to make my point. God knows our human flesh wants to be rewarded for good… we cannot help it! We all want blessings.

 

So then I concluded…

2.)  It’s better to do right out of self-interest than to not do right at all

And this is Because….

 

3.)  God can change our inferior motives

 

God can change, mold, & soften an obedient heart more easily than a disobedient one.

Jesus provided the best example before he went to the cross. He too thought about His own comfort when he asked God if there was any other way. Jesus did not want to suffer on the cross, but He yielded to a higher desire—the desire to do the Father’s will and to save us!

 

It is ok to be motivated by rewards, but More Than that, we should be motivated to please God! When we I understand what Christ really did for me- that he really died in my place, He nailed my sin to death and gave me a new life so I could spend eternity in Heaven! When I grasp the truth of that, I will gladly work for Him… and the more I work for Him, the more I give him… the easier it becomes and the more I want to yield! The Lord molds my heart when I surrender!

Although I do like my paycheck, money is not enough to keep me at my job… my desire to please Him is what keeps me going. Yes, I must earn a living, but the biggest reason I go to work with a smile is to be a light! Many days I truly do not want to smile and many days I do not… but my heart longs to share Jesus Christ with everyone around me.  God instructs us to work hard and give generously so that others around us will see HIM!

Proverbs 11:23- “The desire of the righteous ends only in good!”

I am convinced that my story will end in good… no matter how it ends. So I must keep going, knowing that Christ is on my side! He will make sure my work and my investments do not go unnoticed.

Monday, February 3, 2014

It's not you, It's me.....

I am going to start with a list of character traits/flaws that you may have felt or done before. I have felt/done almost every one of these. As you read this list, be honest and ask yourself- do I ever feel this way?
·       You often find it difficult to say No, even when you really don’t want to say Yes
·       Sometimes confuses being “needed” with being “loved” or “liked”
·       Feels exhausted from always trying to be perfect or helpful
·       Has a fear of letting others down
·       Often overpromises
·       Often holds back from what you really say/think/feel
·       Does everything possible to avoid conflict
·       Constantly worries about hurting others
·       Often feels like you could do or be better
If your answer is yes, I have felt this before…. Then you have something in common with most of us-you too are a People Pleaser!
These past couple of weeks, our small group has been talking about Idols- What is an idol and what idols do we have in our lives that we may or may not even be aware of? We tend to think of an idol as a statue or another figure head that we worship, but in fact that is only one form of an idol.  
Idols can take many different shapes and forms; an idol is not simply a statue or false god.
Tim Keller said: (read)
An Idol is: anything that ABSORBS your heart and imagination, anything you seek to give you what only GOD can give. It is anything so CENTRAL and ESSENTIAL to your life that, should you lose it, or never obtain it… your life would feel hardly worth living.
An idol has such a controlling position in your heart that you can spend most of your passion and energy, your emotional and financial resources, on it without a second thought. It can be family and children, or career and making money, or achievement, or even saving “face” and social standing.
It can be a romantic relationship, peer approval, competence and skill, secure and comfortable circumstances, your beauty or your brains, a great political or social cause, your morality and virtue, or even success in the Christian ministry. When your meaning in life is to fix someone else’s life, we may call it “codependency” but it is really idolatry. An idol is whatever you look at and say, in your heart of hearts, “If I have that, then I’ll feel my life has meaning, then I’ll know I have value, then I’ll feel significant and secure.” ~Tim Keller: Counterfeit Gods
Satan loves to make good things become bad things- He knows that anything, even striving for good can become an idol and distract us from the Lord.  Today, we are going to focus on one of these idols that most of us fail to recognize as a form of idolatry- that is People Pleasing.
God has commanded us to LOVE others… not PLEASE.

The definition of Please is: to focus closely on peoples wishes when deciding how to act or proceed. To give satisfaction or pleasure; to be agreeable.

To strive to please means to accommodate one’s self to the opinions, desires, and interests of others.

You typically want to please someone for your own benefit.

For example: A waitress tries to please their customers: why- they have a hidden motive most of the time- they want a tip!
The definition of Love is: a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person. An unselfish loyal and compassionate concern for the good of another.
Although I often confuse these definitions, there is a distinct difference- Love is always selfless but pleasing often holds hidden selfish agendas…. I know I am guilty of this! Too many times I think I am obeying the Lord, but really I am following my own agenda.
I tried to google- “How many times in scripture are we told to “love one another?” I didn’t do enough research to be quoted but according to Wiki Answers (which is always right ;) the exact phrase “Love one another” is used 11 times. That doesn’t even include “love your neighbor as yourself.” So I am pretty confident scripture tells us more than 11 times that we were created to love others.
I then googled “How many times in scripture are we told to “please others?” to my shock I found 1 scripture that actually used this phrase “Please your neighbor.” I was hoping for zero to make my point, I even tried every changing the translation a few times, but majority of them still said “Please.”
Romans 15:2-
Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up. (ESV)
Each of us should please our neighbors for their good, to build them up. (NIV)
Let every one of us please his neighbor for his good to edification (KJV)
I could keep going… most of them say please. But then I started re-reading this verse and I realized the use of please in this text actually follows the definition of LOVE- an unselfish loyal and compassionate concern FOR THE GOOD OF ANOTHER.
Romans 15:2 tells us to please our neighbor: not to satisfy ourselves, and not to make sure others are happy with us but we are to please them for their own good. That’s what Love is!
Although 11+ to 1 was still in favor of my point, now it is 12 to none. The reason we are called to love others is to teach us how to lay down our own life in order to lift others up!
The Message version of Romans 15:2 says-
“Those of us who are strong and able in the faith need to step in and lend a hand to those who falter, and not just do what is most convenient for us.” (The Message)
Love is inconvenient and not self-seeking. Guys you don’t need a “Tip” from anyone. You already have a FORTUNE from God. AHHH I get so excited when I really wrap my mind around that! So when you understand that you already have everything… you can LOVE knowing you need nothing, but rather you have so much to give!
Back to my point: People-pleasers, allow something other than God to take first place- the opinion of others matters more than God’s opinion.
As we continue on with today’s lesson I don’t want you to get the wrong idea-  it is ok to want to make others happy- but their opinion of you and their satisfaction cannot be at the center of your life. If Christ is at the center, if His approval is the one you are seeking, then relationships in your life will naturally be satisfied because they will be full of Christ’s love- not our pleasing. (Love to Give Not Please to get)
So before we teach ourselves how to seek the right approval- Christ’s approval- we need to do some unteaching. We need to learn and believe that personal validation will not be found by:
·       the approval of others
·       the number of people that like you
Say this with me: Not everyone will like me and that is ok because: GOD LOVES ME!”
I know that sounds so silly but it is true… it is ok because GOD LOVES YOU. If God is for you, who can be against you? (Romans 8:31)
I love the classic break-up line “its not you…. Its me.” Seriously let’s think about this. People only say that because they don’t want someone to think poorly of them… We are more concerned with what that person thinks of us or what their friends think of us then telling them how we really feel.
But why do we care so much about what they think….. what happens after a break-up…. You don’t see or talk to them anymore. So why didn’t we just tell the truth, Maybe we need to learn how to say…..
“It’s not you, It is me… finally realizing you are terrible for me!”
Haha- maybe that is a little harsh… but in all seriousness it proves my point= we need to stop trying to please everyone!
We need to learn how to love people like Jesus wants us to love and that doesn’t mean we should seek everyone’s approval.
Stop trying to be everything to everyoneDoing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.  Maybe it is time to narrow your focus- Get rid of distractions that have become idols!
Today we are going to read a story of a man who wanted everyone to like him. In John 18, we are introduced to Pilate. As a representative of the Roman Empire, his main responsibilities were to collect taxes and keep the peace among the people. In chapter 18 the Jewish leaders bring Jesus to Pilate because they were seeking death and they did not have the authority to kill Jesus- they needed the punishment to come from the Roman Government.
Pilate knew that if he did not agree to the Jews request that it might start a revolt, which would jeopardize his standing with the Roman authorities.
Let’s continue with the story and read John 19: 1-16
1-3 So Pilate took Jesus and had him whipped. The soldiers, having braided a crown from thorns, set it on his head, threw a purple robe over him, and approached him with, “Hail, King of the Jews!” Then they greeted him with slaps in the face.4-5 Pilate went back out again and said to them, “I present him to you, but I want you to know that I do not find him guilty of any crime.” Just then Jesus came out wearing the thorn crown and purple robe. Pilate announced, “Here he is: the Man.”When the high priests and police saw him, they shouted in a frenzy, “Crucify! Crucify!” Pilate told them, “You take him. You crucify him. I find nothing wrong with him.” The Jews answered, “We have a law, and by that law he must die because he claimed to be the Son of God.”
8-9 When Pilate heard this, he became even more scared. He went back into the palace and said to Jesus, “Where did you come from?” Jesus gave no answer. 10 Pilate said, “You won’t talk? Don’t you know that I have the authority to pardon you, and the authority to—crucify you?”11 Jesus said, “You haven’t a shred of authority over me except what has been given you from heaven. That’s why the one who betrayed me to you has committed a far greater fault.” 12 At this, Pilate tried his best to pardon him, but the Jews shouted him down: “If you pardon this man, you’re no friend of Caesar’s. Anyone setting himself up as ‘king’ defies Caesar.
13-14 When Pilate heard those words, he led Jesus outside. He sat down at the judgment seat in the area designated Stone Court. It was the preparation day for Passover. The hour was noon. Pilate said to the Jews, “Here is your king.” 15 They shouted back, “Kill him! Kill him! Crucify him!” Pilate said, “I am to crucify your king?” The high priests answered, “We have no king except Caesar.” 16-19 Pilate caved in to their demand. He turned him over to be crucified.
Many people view Pilate as a man who didn’t stand for anything; however, I would argue that Pilate did indeed stand for something; He stood for his own glory, his own wealth, his own power and fame.
The gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John) each tell this story from a slightly different view point; however each account displays Pilate’s internal struggle to do the right thing.
In each of their stories, Pilate claims to find no fault in Jesus, but still in each gospel, Pilate is the one who authorizes the final order to crucify Christ.
Pilate did stand for something; He stood for himself and the approval of others.

My first thought as I prepared to teach was to talk about how we need to be bold and stand for something. I was going to use the quote- “if you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything.” I think this can very much be applied to today’s lesson, but I want to shift my initial thoughts a bit.
Rather than encouraging our class to stand for something- maybe we actually need to examine what things we are already standing for. What idols do you have? Are you too a people pleaser like Pilate?
Let’s look at this story from another perspective
Matthew 27:15-24 (ask someone to read)
Now it was the governor’s custom at the festival to release a prisoner chosen by the crowd. 16 At that time they had a well-known prisoner whose name was Jesus[b] Barabbas. 17 So when the crowd had gathered, Pilate asked them, “Which one do you want me to release to you: Jesus Barabbas, or Jesus who is called the Messiah?” 18 For he knew it was out of self-interest that they had handed Jesus over to him.19 While Pilate was sitting on the judge’s seat, his wife sent him this message: “Don’t have anything to do with that innocent man, for I have suffered a great deal today in a dream because of him.”
20 But the chief priests and the elders persuaded the crowd to ask for Barabbas and to have Jesus executed. 21 “Which of the two do you want me to release to you?” asked the governor. “Barabbas,” they answered.22 “What shall I do, then, with Jesus who is called the Messiah?” Pilate asked. They all answered, “Crucify him!” 23 “Why? What crime has he committed?” asked Pilate. But they shouted all the louder, “Crucify him!” 24 When Pilate saw that he was getting nowhere, but that instead an uproar was starting, he took water and washed his hands in front of the crowd. “I am innocent of this man’s blood,” he said. “It is your responsibility!”
Looking at these two accounts from John and Matthew- Do you see the grace of God in this story? Do you see the grace given to Pilate? His conscience is telling him the right thing to do, which confirms- God gives us all a chance to do or stand up for what is right... in this story, God even sends a supernatural dream to warn Pilate and to tell him his conscious is right.
It is clear Pilate knows what is right, He knows that Jesus is innocent and He has the authority by his own confession (19:10) to do the right thing. But here is his problem:
The Voice of the Crowd and the advice of other people are in conflict with his conscience.
Pilate did what many leaders and what many of us are often tempted to do in an uncomfortable situation.
1.)  Tried to deny the responsibility
 He tried to hand Jesus back to the Jews to let them deal with the situation. John 18:31 “Take him yourselves and judge him by your own law?”
2.)  Tried to pass the responsibility (this one is very similar to the first)
Pilate’s second attempt happened when he heard that Jesus was from Galilee. Luke 23:7 says that Galilee was under Herod’s jurisdictions so Pilate sent Jesus to Herod claiming that it was not his responsibility since someone else was over Galilee
3.)  Tried to find a compromise to meet the responsibility
Matthew 27:15-18 He remembered a custom observed during the Passover in which the Roman governor would let the people choose one prisoner to be released. Pilate saw this as a solution to his problem. He would narrow the choice between Jesus and a crook named Barabbas. Barabbas was so awful that Pilate was confident the people would not choose to release Barabbas. But he was wrong…
So when Pilate finally realizes he is out of options he has to decided: Please the people or do right- he decides to:
4.)  Washed his hands of the responsibility- “Majority Rules”
Pilate ignored his Wife’s dream and he ignored what his gut was telling him all because he wanted to please the crowd.
Pilate had every opportunity to make the right choice but simply decided to protect his own position rather than do the right thing. What breaks my heart is that Pilate thought he was innocent and free of guilt because he had “washed his hands” of the crime. I’m sure deep down Pilate was full of guilt, but he convinced himself that he could do what the people wanted and still be right in God’s eyes.
Matthew 6:24 tells us we cannot serve two masters. Today we too have a choice- who do we serve?
If we are honest I think most of us would say we have done this too. Maybe we have not given a direct order to nail Jesus to the cross, but by being passive, we have ignored what was right in order to please people.
I was trying to think of a common example- How do we “wash our hands?” Maybe it is as simple as being part of a negative conversation. Girls we like to gossip, I am sure you have been in a conversation that you knew deep down was wrong and hurtful- but you wanted to be invited back to the dinner party- you wanted to be in with the “cool girls.” So you just didn’t add anything and waited for the next topic… passivity is just as bad as participation. When we allow something to continue, even when we know it is wrong- we are not innocent- we may think we have “washed our hands,” pat ourselves on the back- but by remaining quiet, we have said: “I agree with this.”
Do you struggle with this? I know I do.
 As singles, I think this is one of the biggest struggles we face. We are all trying to figure out where we fit in, what we enjoy doing or what we are good at, and what relationships are important to us. I believe as singles, this is the most important time to stand for what is right- This is the most important time to not allow ourselves to be passive.  


As much as we can learn what not to do from this story, we can also learn what to do:

1. Seek wise counsel- Pilate asked/listened to bad counsel for advice
Proverbs 15: 22- Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.
From this story and this verse we can see the importance of listening to the right advice.

2. Examine your heart! Pilate chose not to weigh right and wrong
Luke 6: 45- A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.
When wee are full of any thought or idol, it will show in our conversations- what do you talk about?

3.  Decide if you want to Love or Please
Proverbs 16: 7- When a man’s ways please the LORD, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.
I Thessalonians 2:4- just as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak, not to please man, but to please God who tests our hearts. (ESV)

My prayer for each of you is that our hearts would hurt because we want more of Christ. That we would strive to strengthen our relationship with Him.
SO this week, I challenge you to examine your hearts and identify any idols you have allowed in your life. Then decide- are you going to love the world like Christ or are you going to please the world?